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A man who is currently single and looking for friends or dating or a long term relationship with a man

My Vitals:

Age: 45, Orientation: gay, Height: 6' 00" (183 cm), Weight: 180 lbs (82 kg), Body Type: athletic, Ethnicity: white / european

Where I Live:

 USA  >>  Tennessee  >>  Jackson

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General Description

WHO AM I •    Gay man; contractor and licensed engineer with over a decade of hands-on experience in project execution from concept through completion. - Industrious and detail-oriented: I enjoy solving problems, managing people, and making things happen. - Ambitious but realigning priorities: I’ve been a workaholic by nature, and now I’m making space in my life for connection and balance. How I live - My weekdays are very structured and efficient; weekends are evolving towards intentional downtime. I value routine, punctuality and keeping communication lines open (things that also manifest in my animal site meetings as well as relationships). • I travel for work sometimes, but I’m local enough to build consistency in a relationship. What I enjoy Hobbies and Interests Design and renovation of spaces – from technical drawings to finishing. Cooking as a creative outlet—simple meals, thoughtful wine pairings, and exploring new recipes. - Staying active: trail runs, cycling, and hitting the gym occasionally to reset after long work weeks. - Quiet cultural pleasures: good books, architecture podcasts, and the occasional independent movie. Social Life I value small friend groups and meaningful conversation over nights out, clubbing, or big parties. - I love throwing dinners, celebrating life milestones and sharing practical jokes with close friends. What I’m looking for What are some goals in a relationship? - Ultimately seeking a committed, monogamous relationship built on trust, respect, and healthy communication. - Emotionally available, curious, and invested in growing together. Personality and Values Emotionally literate and communicative. -    Honest, compassionate, and reliable. - Independent enough to have their own life, generous enough to build a shared one. Lifestyle fit - Comfortable with the fact that my partner’s career is very intense but he is trying to create more space for us. - You should be open to both staying in for a cozy evening and going out on spontaneous weekend adventures. Someone who values planning and execution just as much as laughter and spontaneity. How I show up in a relationship What I am good at - Dependable: If I say I will be there, I will be there. - Practical support: I fix things and solve problems, from a leaking roof to a major life decision. • Thoughtful gestures: I pay attention to details and follow through on things that matter to you. What I’m working on Slowing down and being present instead of immediately jumping into work mode. -    Prioritizing emotional check-ins and intentional quality time. -    Say “no” to additional work obligations to honor commitments to loved ones. Ideal first few dates - Low-pressure coffee or walk through a neighborhood with good architecture and conversation. - A casual dinner (cook together or try a small neighborhood restaurant). - Go to a gallery or weekend market. Things that can spark conversation and show curiosity. Boundaries and Dealbreakers No tolerance for deception or being emotionally shut off. - I am not looking for anything casual, I am interested in monogamy and long-term relationships only. - Respect for time and plans (e.g., chronic flakiness is a huge red flag). I want someone who’s ready to build something long-term, who values ambition but pays attention to the person next to them. If you’re looking to build a true relationship based on small, daily rituals and mutual respect, I’ll start clearing my calendar.

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